Sweet Counsel

Advice is a dangerous gift, and for centuries our greatest writers have wondered how to dispense it safely.

1750

King George II 1727-1760

Introduction

‘It is always a silly thing to give advice,’ says Erskine in Oscar Wilde’s The Portrait of Mr W. H., ‘but to give good advice is absolutely fatal.’ Back in 1750 the Spectator, founded by Joseph Addison (1672-1719) and Sir Richard Steele (1672-1729), suggested a way to sugar the pill.

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THERE is nothing which we receive with so much reluctance as advice. We look upon the man who gives it us as offering an affront to our understanding, and treating us like children or idiots. We consider the instruction as an implicit censure, and the zeal which any one shews for our good on such an occasion as a piece of presumption or impertinence. The truth of it is, the person who pretends to advise, does, in that particular, exercise a superiority over us, and can have no other reason for it, but that in comparing us with himself, he thinks us defective either in our conduct or our understanding.

For these reasons, there is nothing so difficult as the art of making advice agreeable; and indeed all the writers, both ancient and modern, have distinguished themselves among one another, according to the perfection at which they have arrived in this art.

Précis
In the ‘Spectator’ for February 1750, there was an article about giving advice. The author began by saying that nobody likes getting advice because it makes him seem inferior to his counsellor, either in conduct or intelligence, and that what marks out our best authors is their ability to dispense advice without offence.
Sevens

Suggest answers to this question. See if you can limit one answer to exactly seven words.

What in the author’s opinion is the least welcome of all gifts?

Suggestion

Advice, especially if it is unsolicited advice.

Jigsaws

Express the ideas below in a single sentence, using different words as much as possible. Do not be satisfied with the first answer you think of; think of several, and choose the best.

We like to get gifts. OWe don’t like to get advice.